First, as per my usual, I start researching. I love to research. Reading to find out all the answers to your questions. I begin by searching for "Mother of the Bride" blogs. I knew I needed something that would serve as a guide for me. Something that would peak my interest and guide me through all the stages of planning a wedding. I needed something that was written in a way that drew me in and offered ways to help our daughter through all the stages of planning. Sadly, I did not find what I needed, so I decided to start my own. Not only is this a way for me to chronicle my journey as a Mother of the Bride, but hopefully this is a way to help other moms, or even brides, through the process. This is not a "How To" blog. I am not selling anything. I am simply chronicling my steps through each part of this journey.
Second, I went online to Barnes and Noble and Amazon to find Mother of the Bride books. I needed something that would help me to stay organized and tell me what is expected of me. I knew from past experiences and speaking with other Mother of the Brides that my role was huge. That is exhilarating and scary at the same time. I want to do right by my daughter. I want her to have the wedding of her dreams. I want her to know she has my undivided attention, when she needs it. I want to make sure that we end this journey with our relationship just as strong as it is now. I do not want her to look back and say, "Woo, I'm glad that's over with!" Nope, I want her to think and feel like she was supported along the way and I needed something that would help me to help her. I do have to admit, searching online for Mother of the Bride books is daunting, so I would not recommend it. Unfortunately, we live about 30-40 minutes from a book store, so this was my only avenue at that time. I ended up purchasing 4 books, which I've listed below. I know... that's overkill, but I felt each book would help me. In the end, I've really only used one that I find is the most helpful. That is Sharon Naylor's, "The Mother-of-the-Bride Book: Giving your Daughter a Wonderful Wedding (Updated Edition).
This book is WONDERFUL!! So helpful in explaining the process and emotions that your daughter and you will go through. So far, everything that is in this book has been exactly how I've experienced it. If you buy any books, be sure you add this one to your cart. I also added these books, but so far have mostly relied on Sharon Naylor's:
No matter which book you decide to buy, you cannot go wrong. All 4 are awesome and reasonably priced on Amazon. All 4 provide a great starting point if this is your first time planning a wedding.
Lastly, one of the greatest messages I took away from Sharon Naylor is that being a Mother of the Bride is an amazing, once in a life time experience and you want to give it the respect that the title deserves. Working along beside your daughter through this journey is going to make your relationship strong, if not stronger. Stand beside her, don't judge, don't force your ideas on her, and simply be her sounding board. I can do that!!
